Worthiness and BDSM hand shake

The more I think about it and the more I read about BDSM training I come to the realization that there is so much complexity that smashes together like play-doh. Yet, this intrinsic behavior is very much common in our daily lives. We tend to put every aspect of our lives in the same light.

After listening to an interesting video last weekend, I started to think about BDSM ritualistic patterns and how they connect to our emotional stability and sanity. Here is the thing, living a lifestyle has many advantages and disadvantages and sometimes it comes down to, what are we doing with the new experience we have engaged in? Are we brave enough or strong enough to indulge in something that maybe 99% of the people we know wouldn’t really understand it all?

When I think about a slave/submissive who has begun to explore what he or she craves at an older age. I think of the natural struggles an adult will go through when having a drastic change to their lives. The process for the most part lies between fear, denial, insecurity and the feeling of not feeling worth it, while feeling guilt from the pleasure felt during the experience.

But, I think that the problem might not be the choices we are making, but who we are as people. Nietzsche in his book “Human, All too Human beyond Good and Evil” defines Physiological observation as the means by which man can ease life’s burden … by exercising the art of producing the presence of the mind in difficult circumstance”. I would believe that most of us don’t put our mind first to create an adequate understanding of our behaviors, craves and/or needs.

As people we are sensitive and emotional first and calculated last. With this understanding it is possible to perceive that your inner struggle could be a factor for that feeling of “worthlessness”. But, what if I tell you this could be changed? What if instead of thinking you are doing something wrong from the new experience. You decide to actually evaluate what you have learned through the journey and your past ways.

It is logical to change your perceptions of reality. At the end of the day, your learning curve is endless. The true test of fear will come from the understanding of what you fear the most besides being locked up, or bounded by a person you trust, love and care for. What you fear the most is that one day, you will open your eyes and realized that all you have learned and have known for your entire life could possibly be a lie, a mistake, or even worst, you could realize you created your own reality beyond the truth.

So, my argument is. If you ever question your right or worthiness to do anything, why not questions why you feel less worth it or less valuable than any other person. Write it down if you dare. Sometimes you will realized that the biggest punisher of all times is in fact, you!

My principal rule when training a slave is making he/her feel worth it as a person first and second as property who crave for empowerment and constant enlightenment.

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About Ms Raquel Orchid

I believe in the power of change, changes can only be done if we believe in the positive awareness of the human nature. This blog seeks to help me explore the world of BDSM, fetish and moral righteousness.
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3 Responses to Worthiness and BDSM hand shake

  1. Kegger says:

    I really enjoyed your insightful perspective, I could only dream of meeting a wonderful intelligent woman as your self and spending a life time serving her.

    • Ms Raquel Orchid says:

      Thank you Kegger! I do appreciate your words.

      • Kegger says:

        Ms Raquel Orchid,

        I really appreciate your insight, a women’s perspective is valuable and revered as I am endeavoring to understand myself. I am a good looking muscular alpha male over 50 that runs a corporation that has so many expectations and demands daily that I am exasperated.

        Since I was a child I have had submissive tendencies to serve a woman of understanding. I have been unsuccessful in relationships in the past, possibly due to the lack of knowledge of how to find a woman who would love to take control of her man and lovingly and passionately dominate him?

        A woman of dominance and erudition is incredibly sexy, there is is so much more to this erotic adventure than love making. Rituals, protocol, surrender a passionate daily crusade?

        Thank you for your dedication and discipline, I am looking forward as a student to your future thoughts.

        Thanks,

        Kegger,

        P.S. Kegger is my alias, LOl

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